From
Glamour Magazine
A friend of mine, Lauren, has a habit of biting her lip when she’s nervous, especially when she’s out and sees a guy she likes. Instead of talking to him, Lauren, who is beautiful and funny and owns her own business, will nibble her lip, then talk to me. “Jake, that boy is so cute!” she’ll say. Still, she won’t make a move. But she should. How do I know? Because that boy told me so!
As a public service to my readers this month, I conducted interviews with the kind of dudes my editor at Glamour calls man candy (I’m not offended, if only because she said I “sort of qualify”; I’m ignoring the “sort of”) to find out what hot guys wish women knew about them. Here’s what they said.
A hot guy may not know how to talk to you.
When women are hitting on you every night, “it fluffs up your ego, for sure,” says Rick, a guitarist whose punk band plays sold-out shows around the country. “But it can make you worse at meeting girls in the usual situations, because you’re not used to having to work for it.” Just because a guy’s good-looking doesn’t mean he’s got game. So just go up and introduce yourself, and be sure not to mistake shyness for arrogance.
But he does know how to sleep with you, so proceed with caution.
When James, 25, a professional athlete, gets one of his “constant propositions,” as he says, “it takes the woman down a notch in my mind. When all these girls want to sleep with you, it’s hard to take them seriously. I’m sorry to say it, but I categorize them as sluts.” James might want to look in the mirror. Most hot guys don’t want to see a slut there, either. Michael, a fireman for 18 years and a regular in the calendar (yes, that calendar), says getting hit on constantly was fun, but “in the back of your mind, you realize that there’s a shallowness to living that way.” So watch out for quick-and-easy action with the hot guy. Odds are, someone’s going to wake up feeling weird.
If you do sleep with him, there may be issues.
One more caution about casual sex with the superhot guy: He may be hard to please. “When you’re sleeping with a bunch of different girls all at once, you’re looking for a bigger thrill each time,” James says. He told me about a recent threesome he had: “This girl tracked me down on Facebook and brought her friend. I’d never met them, but when they’re sending wild photos and messages, it’s hard to resist.” It left him wanting to do it again, he says, “with hotter girls.” So unless you’re up for adventure: Avoid.
But most of all, hot guys want to be taken seriously.
Rick’s girlfriend wasn’t a fan before they met. “Whenever I’ve settled down to date a woman, nine times out of 10 she’s been indifferent about the band,” he says. “You don’t want to date someone with your poster on her wall.” Fireman Michael likes to be admired for his job, but “I take it with a grain of salt,” he says. “Women have an image of you that has little to do with who you really are.” So go deeper with the hot guy. Sure he looks good onstage or in that uniform, but that’s not enough in the long run—and he knows it.
Maybe that’s the takeaway for all of us. You’ve heard that you shouldn’t write off someone because of his nerdy career or his slightly receding hairline. Well, same goes in the opposite direction. All that superficial stuff, negative and positive, doesn’t mean a thing until you scratch the surface. And even the most buff, handsomest, most chiseled surfaces (like, say, mine, I swear) are just begging to be scratched.
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